Many are confused between the feeling of lust or love. Or maybe the brain shuts our thinking cap when we are with someone we are attracted to. Studies have shown that the brain releases a set of chemicals that leads to how we think,act ... lust is defined as the initial passionate sexual desire and it does not last more than months or even weeks. Thus the reason why relationship should not be based on lust as lust dont last and in turn the relationship dont last. Some may argue that certain feelings of attraction physically is unavoidable and intimacy is what pops in their mind. Hence, the display of affection that we now see in this modernised and more liberalised society we live in. It can also be known as PDA(public display affections).
Not everyone is of accepting of this PDA and they have their own reasons. In addition, the way one is brought up also determines their lifestyle consciously or sub-consciously. Nonetheless, many feel that without intimacy, the relationship is dull and of no oomph! less that they know that when one loves the other, their forms of expressing these differs. The degree of love one expresses is not entirely based on physically, it is deeper than that.
One tends to overlook the beauty of attachment or bonding that lust can never live up to it. If one takes time to understand that there's more to physical affection and venturing in a relationship based on lust solely wont last. It takes two to tango as many have heard. Hence, communication and mutual understanding that many dread tends to be the pillars of a relationship. There are many more where that came from. Ultimately, it's undeniable that the feeling of lust is being experienced, it then boils down to self-control and discipline. Some may then argue that this is nature and no matter how hard we try to control, it does not work.
We are afterall humans..
"love is deeper than pure lusts"
lavender
Friday, February 12, 2010
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
losing the essence of Education
AAA!!!
These are the familiar letters for many since young. Eager parents sending their young children as early as 5 years old to various classes in the hopes for their children to get good grades. Many are now driven to get good grades. Ultimately, their aim is to get as many As. The process of learning seems to be blurry.
Back in our parent's time, a typical recess will have students chatting over who has the most rubber bands, marbles...
Now, we hear many talking about the difficulties of getting good grades and talk with full of zest that without good grades, it's the end. Or, we have some who says that even chatting during recess is a waste of time and should be utilised for education. It's nothing wrong in us to be competitive, ambitious and getting good results. However, the issue is, we seldom see one who pursue education for EDUCATION no more, instead, many just pursue the PAPER QUAlification(the grade A). Sadly to say, the essence of learning is thus lost in many youths.
The feeling of upset is natural when one is face with setback like getting poor results. This will drives them to achieve better results. This is the process that many view lightly. One says that the route to success is having failure as a stepping stone. However, when one takes the grades as the ultimate thing in life,there's no more diversity and leads to a monotonous and homogenity in life. There were instances where we find students taking their own life upon getting poor results.
Is this a matter of own discipline or is the fighting for education has gone out of control?
It boils down to the individuals for their own actions and how they find meaning in life and how they view education. Nonetheless, the society plays a part in how these individuals makes decisions in life or how they view things.
let's hope that the future is full of colours and diversification where many are venturing out in new things and find more learning meaningful and everyday is a learning experience to us.
"losing the drive serves no direction, losing the essence of life, is like losing a life"
-lavender-
These are the familiar letters for many since young. Eager parents sending their young children as early as 5 years old to various classes in the hopes for their children to get good grades. Many are now driven to get good grades. Ultimately, their aim is to get as many As. The process of learning seems to be blurry.
Back in our parent's time, a typical recess will have students chatting over who has the most rubber bands, marbles...
Now, we hear many talking about the difficulties of getting good grades and talk with full of zest that without good grades, it's the end. Or, we have some who says that even chatting during recess is a waste of time and should be utilised for education. It's nothing wrong in us to be competitive, ambitious and getting good results. However, the issue is, we seldom see one who pursue education for EDUCATION no more, instead, many just pursue the PAPER QUAlification(the grade A). Sadly to say, the essence of learning is thus lost in many youths.
The feeling of upset is natural when one is face with setback like getting poor results. This will drives them to achieve better results. This is the process that many view lightly. One says that the route to success is having failure as a stepping stone. However, when one takes the grades as the ultimate thing in life,there's no more diversity and leads to a monotonous and homogenity in life. There were instances where we find students taking their own life upon getting poor results.
Is this a matter of own discipline or is the fighting for education has gone out of control?
It boils down to the individuals for their own actions and how they find meaning in life and how they view education. Nonetheless, the society plays a part in how these individuals makes decisions in life or how they view things.
let's hope that the future is full of colours and diversification where many are venturing out in new things and find more learning meaningful and everyday is a learning experience to us.
"losing the drive serves no direction, losing the essence of life, is like losing a life"
-lavender-
The First
Everyone has their firsts in life. Even in How I met your mother in Ep1, the 9yrs couple sought to find their firsts.. There's no doubt that the feeling of getting the firsts is undescribable. It could be anything. Ranging from the first kiss, first branded shoes or even to the first fight.
The memories that stuck in our mind is greatly impacted when we encounter our FIRSTS.
Many are driven to have the perfect firsts. WE determine how the firsts starts and ends.
Imagining typical boys meeting behind the school corridor to have their first fight, the thoughts that ran through their minds differ and indeed the process is experienced differently.
Having the very first paycheck that gives us the satisfaction of being independant, more superior ad whatnots. Owning the First Jimmy Choos or Vera Wang dress may be toxic to some.
Or the typical lovebirds enjoying their first kiss as the sun sets.
In life, everyone experiences the FIRST in everything.. It gives the feeling of achieving something new, embarking in a new journey or just a simple first.
Nonetheless, there are some who seem not to bother the firsts as something impactful or of significant. However, sub-consciously for these people, the firsts do matters, just in a different way..
"The first may not be perfect but it gives the satisfaction of achieving something new in life"
-lavender-
The memories that stuck in our mind is greatly impacted when we encounter our FIRSTS.
Many are driven to have the perfect firsts. WE determine how the firsts starts and ends.
Imagining typical boys meeting behind the school corridor to have their first fight, the thoughts that ran through their minds differ and indeed the process is experienced differently.
Having the very first paycheck that gives us the satisfaction of being independant, more superior ad whatnots. Owning the First Jimmy Choos or Vera Wang dress may be toxic to some.
Or the typical lovebirds enjoying their first kiss as the sun sets.
In life, everyone experiences the FIRST in everything.. It gives the feeling of achieving something new, embarking in a new journey or just a simple first.
Nonetheless, there are some who seem not to bother the firsts as something impactful or of significant. However, sub-consciously for these people, the firsts do matters, just in a different way..
"The first may not be perfect but it gives the satisfaction of achieving something new in life"
-lavender-
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